September 21, 2016
Have you ever felt incompetent as a parent? I had this overwhelming feeling this past weekend. For those who don't know my family well, I have three adult children ages 25, 21 and 20. They are all wonderful and doing great. This year my wife and I agreed to host one of our international students, Sarah, from Valley. With Homecoming activities upon us the discussion was whether or not she wanted to attend the dance. When Sarah decided she wanted to go, my wife and daughter spent a whole night with her trying on dresses and looking at different things to wear.
Then it happened. My wife and daughter were both going out of town for the weekend. Mia told me that Sarah was all set for the dance except for the fact I needed to take her shopping for shoes on Saturday morning. In my daughter's 20 years of life I can only remember taking her shoe shopping two times. One time was to buy basketball shoes and the other time was to buy track shoes. Those I was fine with. But the idea of helping Sarah find shoes for the Homecoming dance, this is where the feelings of incompetency come in.
On Saturday morning as we were looking for shoes at the first store I was confronted with what I already knew, I was in over my head. She tried on a number of pairs and wasn't sure what she liked. At one point Sarah told me she really needed a woman's help. I couldn't have agreed with her more. At the second store she found a pair she liked and then a second pair she liked. She asked me which ones I thought were better. Again, complete feeling of incompetency. She settled on a pair of shoes and after we bought them and headed home I felt my pulse and blood pressure return to normal. When my wife and daughter saw the shoes later they commented about how cute they were. Again, a deep sigh of relief.
Later I thought about this feeling of being in over my head as a parent. I am so thankful that we have a heavenly Father who knows all of our needs and is never in over His head. Mathew 6:28-29 tells us, "Why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you not even Solomon in all of his splendor was dressed like one of these." God not only knows our needs, He is the provider and meets those needs in a way that is so much more than we could ever imagine ourselves. After a stressful shopping experience, this is a great thing to fall back on.
Mr. Robert Koehne