October 3, 2018
Ok, here we go. It’s wedding week in the Koehne household. You would think by the third one in a year I would have this down, but I must tell you that having a daughter get married is very different than having my sons get married. With both of my sons all I really needed to do was have my suit, get my hair cut, bring my checkbook, and of course provide whatever support was necessary for my wife. Things are a little different with my daughter. First, there is a lot more work to do. Then there is the emotion of it being my daughter and my youngest child. As we are putting on this wedding I recognize all the planning that goes into it. I am very thankful that my daughter is low maintenance and my wife is doing most of the work.
Last week I had someone ask me if I would get emotional at the wedding. To be honest I have been hit by different waves of emotions as we are leading up to the big day. Last week in our worship and word chapel I found myself welling up with emotions as I thought about it. I have these images of my daughter from her childhood that keep running through my mind. It’s not the big events that I seem to be remembering, it is the little things. The way she would suck on her middle and ring finger and put her head on my shoulder and fall asleep as a small child. It is remembering how she ran around with her friends and made up skits to perform for the parents. When she was in high school she didn’t want to go to homecoming with any of the boys so she asked me to tell them she wasn’t allowed to go with a date (I was more than happy to do that). Then if you know Miriam you know her infectious laugh. I will miss that at home. I don’t think it is the idea of her getting married as much as knowing she is moving on, in a good way, and I won’t be responsible for her. The thought of passing that along to someone else is a little overwhelming at times.
Obviously my love for her will never change; however, as much as I would like to be in denial, I know our relationship will change. The thing is, that is how it is supposed to be. God created us this way. Ephesians 5:31 tells us, “For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” I am so happy for my daughter. Yes, I am sure I will become emotional. I will definitely miss having her around as my little girl, even if their new apartment is only about 1.5 miles from our house. But I also know this is what God has called her to and I know she is marrying a man who puts his trust in Jesus Christ. For this I am full of joy.
Mr. Robert Koehne